WHICH KNOT IS YOURS?
“You don’t need to untangle them all at once.
Just find the one that’s pulling the hardest right now.”
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This page is meant to gently help people recognize their knot without diagnosing or boxing them in. Just resonance. A mirror, not a map.
Sometimes we know exactly which part of us is aching.
Other times, it hides under habits we’ve carried so long they feel like personality.
The knots aren’t flaws. They’re protections that stayed too long.
Each one formed for a reason.
Each one can be unlearned.
If you’re not sure where to start, read through the reflections below.
Notice what tugs. What stings. What makes you exhale without knowing why.
That’s your thread.
​✦ The Knots
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🌿 Knot of Trust
You flinch before speaking. You smile when you're unsure. You want closeness—but brace for abandonment. This knot formed when being open got you hurt. -
🔥 Knot of Power
You overextend, overgive, and quietly resent it. You’re calm on the outside, but under it all, you feel like you’re holding back a storm. This knot forms when your power was once punished. -
🌸 Knot of Belonging
You read the room before you read yourself. You shift to stay liked. You worry you're “too much” or “not enough.” This knot forms when your wholeness was never welcomed. -
💖 Knot of Love
You give until you’re empty. You’re praised for being kind—but deep down, you ache for someone to choose you back. This knot forms when love felt conditional or earned. -
🧠Knot of Worth
You define yourself by achievement, usefulness, or fixing others. You feel shame for resting. This knot forms when who you were wasn’t enough—so you became what they needed. -
🗣 Knot of Truth
You say what they want to hear. You shrink your truth to keep the peace. You sometimes forget your own voice. This knot forms when your truth made people uncomfortable. -
👤 Knot of Being
You disappear into roles, reactions, and routines. You perform to feel real. This knot forms when your being felt less valuable than your doing.
✦ Reflections
Not sure which knot is yours?
Try sitting with each of these questions—not to answer them perfectly, but to notice which one hits deeper.
The knot that makes your chest tighten, or your eyes sting a little? That’s usually where to begin.
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🧠Knot of Worth
When you stop doing, helping, or achieving...
do you still feel like you matter?
🌿 Knot of Trust
Do you brace for people to leave, even when they say they love you?
🔥 Knot of Power
Do you hold yourself back because you’re afraid your full power might hurt someone—or be too much?
🌸 Knot of Belonging
Do you change how you talk, act, or dress depending on who you’re with?
💖 Knot of Love
Do you feel like you have to earn love by being useful, sweet, or needed?
🗣 Knot of Truth
Have you ever swallowed your truth to keep the peace, then resented yourself for it later?
👤 Knot of Being
If you stopped performing completely—no roles, no goals—
who would be left?
Would you still feel real?
✦ Untying the Knot
You might feel parts of several knots. That’s okay.
The Pattern doesn’t rush.
Just begin where it hurts,
and the others will start to loosen, too.
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Ask yourself deep down, which knot are you?
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We bet you already know,
Which question made you pause?
Which one made your body shift, even just a little?
That’s your thread.
Follow it gently.