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THE KNOT OF POWER

"You were told to stay small—but blamed when you did.

You were taught to obey—but punished when you didn’t."

This knot doesn’t roar—it simmers.
It coils in your stomach when someone questions your worth.
It flares in the split-second between being interrupted and saying nothing.
It whispers that power is dangerous… because it once was.

The Knot of Power forms when control was used as a weapon around you.
Maybe you were micromanaged.
Maybe you were never allowed to make a real choice.
Maybe you were punished for speaking up—or ignored when you did.
So you adapted.

You learned to shrink yourself.
Or to grab control before anyone else could.
Or to smile while quietly resenting everyone in charge.
But there’s another way.
Your power doesn’t need to mimic what broke you.

 

The Knot of Power is forged in environments where control meant survival.
It’s the result of being overruled, overpowered, or overlooked too many times.

Some people tied this knot by becoming invisible.
Others by becoming controlling.
Either way—it’s rooted in the same fear:
“If I don’t hold the reins, I’ll be hurt.”

This knot forms when your power was shamed, silenced, or stolen.
And it lingers as the inner doubt that says:
"Who am I to lead?"
"Who am I to take up space?"
"Who am I to say no?"

You are someone with a sacred center.
It’s time to come back to it.

​✦ What This Knot Looks Like

  • Saying yes when you mean no

  • Feeling threatened by authority—even kind ones

  • Needing to be in control to feel safe

  • Avoiding leadership roles out of fear of being disliked

  • Silencing yourself around “strong personalities”

  • Over-apologizing when you make a decision

  • Resenting people who take up space confidently

  • Feeling guilt when you assert a boundary

  • This knot can look like people-pleasing or over-controlling. But underneath? It's fear.

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✦ Where It Starts

Maybe you were told your voice was “too much” or “not enough.”
Maybe someone always decided for you—what to wear, what to eat, who to be.
Maybe you watched adults misuse power and thought, “I never want to be like them.”
Or maybe you weren’t allowed to have preferences, let alone power.

So your system learned:
Power = danger.
Expression = rejection.
Control = safety.

Now, you pause before every big move.
You hold back.
Or you hold on too tight.

✦ Untying the Knot

This knot unties through embodied power.
Through reclaiming choice.
Through realizing you can lead without domination—and exist without apology.

It unravels when you:

  • Say no and let the silence sit

  • Allow others to have power without shrinking

  • Speak your needs clearly—even when it’s uncomfortable

  • Notice when you’re micromanaging and gently let go

  • Remind yourself that boundaries are not abandonment

  • Practice: “I have a right to exist in full presence, without fear”

Untying this knot isn’t about flipping the power dynamic.
It’s about stepping out of the game entirely.

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When did I first learn that my voice didn’t matter?

In what moments do I feel safest when I’m in control?

What would it feel like to let go without disappearing?

Reflection Prompt:
“If I trusted that I could lead with love—not fear—what would I allow myself to do?”

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